Long distance relationships are usually not very easy for either party involved, but it can be comforting to know that someone loves you enough to go through such a labor of love.
There is really no way of describing how one feels hugging the one they love when they have been apart for an extended period of time. There are many obstacles that must be overcome before that joyous and spectacular moment can actually come to reality. The major obstacle that most couples have when being far apart for extended periods of time is the obstacle of being able to have a meaningful conversation.
Long distance conversations will become harder and harder the longer that two parties are apart. The couple will usually have trouble relating to each other, and this is purely because the inability of both parties to be actually physically involved in the other person’s life.
This isn’t the end of it. There are ways to overcome this obstacle. One popular way is to just increase the volume of conversations throughout the day. Not necessarily increase the phone conversations, but maybe video chat or even write a long email. This increased time spent on the relationship will make both parties feel more involved in the daily life of their partner.
This theory usually does help when implemented properly and over time. Increased LDR conversation right away may overwhelm one or both of the partners and they may start to feel smothered, and everybody knows that can just breed destruction!
Increased long distance conversation is a good way of staying involved in each others’ daily lives, but the conversations must also hold meaning. Meaning can be hard to maintain, because sometimes there just isn’t much to talk about! In times of low action or feelings of disconnection try and reminisce about the good times that you have shared in the past, and begin planning for future good times together.
This can help bring a couple closer together almost instantly. Past times can recenter the couple’s focus, and let each party remember why they are still involved in such a hard relationship.
Future plans can give a light at the end of the tunnel. Without anything to look forward to there is really not that much incentive to stay together. These two things are relationship savers when it comes to long distance relationships.
Conversing about the good times in the past and the good times to come can really help any relationship that is struggling with “content” if you will, but the key to the long distance relationship is just to hang in there.
When times get rough, because they will, the best thing to remember is the moment that is to come. The moment when you get to wrap your arms around each other and feel the warmth of each others’ bodies.
That moment is undeniably worth all the hardships and obstacles that face couples involved in long distance relationships.