Distance can put extreme strain upon a relationship, whether you met online or have been separated because of employment and life changes. Regardless of why you are so far apart from your partner, the fact still remains it is HARD! Anybody who has ever been in a long distance relationship for a long period of time will tell you that it takes extreme dedication and trust.
Distance, over time, will show you how much a person truly cares for you, or how much you truly care for that person. They say that “Absence makes the heart grow fonder”. This is without a doubt very true, but distance can also put too much strain upon a part of your relationship that may already be weak and destroy it. Distance will exploit a relationship’s weaknesses, but it doesn’t have to break it.
Dedication to another human being is something extremely special, and showing that to your long distance significant other is one of the many secrets of long distance dating.
To verbalize and show through actions that you are 100% dedicated to the long distance relationship will automatically let the other person know they can trust you. Dedication and trust really do go hand in hand, and trust is the foundation of all good relationships.
If a couple does not trust each other, it just won’t work out. That is pretty much the bottom line. Without trust there is no relationship. Distance will inevitably start to sow doubt in the minds of both parties.
This is absolutely normal and should be no cause for alarm. Just remember trust is the key, and communication is the hand that turns the key. Allow for open and honest communication and your fears will be alleviated almost immediately.
If you doubt something about the relationship or you’re just feeling neglected…TALK ABOUT IT. That is the best and only way to get through the mistrust distance will inevitably breed.
Let your significant other know how you are feeling and listen to how they are feeling. That will get you over many of the challenging obstacles in a long distance relationship.
The secret to long distant relationships is extremely straight forward. KEEP IT STRAIGHTFORWARD! Keep the communication straightforward and honest, and there really is no obstacle that you can’t get over.
This tried and true secret will get you through the best and worst of times. Just remember to keep it not just open, but also HONEST. Honesty really is the best policy and it will get you extremely far, not only in relationships but in life. If you and your partner stay honest with each other throughout your long distance relationship, you will both feel comforted and involved.
If you stick by these long distance dating guidelines, (and stay physically in line!) you will be back in the arms of your significant other in no time at all, and in that moment you will realize why you put up with all the feelings of loneliness in the past.
One of the secrets of long distance relationships that are successful is maintaining a regular connection. If you’re not staying connected with each other on a regular basis, you might find you drift apart from one another.
Of course, like any relationship you shouldn’t be talking all the time, everyone needs their free space. You should however, be looking to have at least some daily contact when you’re in a long distance relationship.
The good news is, there is an abundance of ways for you to stay in contact with one another. You have telephone, text message, e-mail, instant messenger and physical letters. An assortment of all methods would work best, as different forms of correspondence are better for different occasions.
If you need to talk, your obvious choice is going to be over the phone. If you’re sending a short message, for example when you wake up before work, text message will suffice. E-Mails are good when you’re writing a message that is long and thought provoking, while there is no method more personal than a physical written letter.
Generally you will want to find the balance between communicating enough with your partner and under or over communicating with them. Ask your partner how often they want to talk with you over the phone and tell them if you agree or disagree. Be honest with each other and strike a balance; ideally you should both want at least daily contact.
Once you agree how often you’re going to talk on the phone, set some time aside daily when you can focus primarily on the call. You’re not going to want distractions when you’re talking to a loved one and if your partner detects your mind is elsewhere, they may feel neglected. Use your other connection mediums like e-mails and texts around phone calls for purposes like jokes or flirting.
In conclusion, always ask your partner regularly if they are happy with communication patterns. Ask your partner if they feel you are talking too often, too little or just enough.
There is no recipe for the exact right amount of communication in long distance relationships because everyone is different. Just make sure you’re both happy and always in contact at least once per day in some form or fashion.
A long distance relationship can be stressful. How do you maintain the feelings and romance? How can the relationship grow? How can you develop and take the relationship to the next level? Answering all of these questions in your mind is very difficult.
The first thing to remember is love itself is never easy. Long distance relationships are even more difficult. If you struggle with trusting your partner then inevitably you will struggle to cope with them being away.
However, if you lack trust in your partner, why are you with them in the first place? Trust is an issue you need to establish, ask yourself, if your partner wants to maintain a long distance relationship with you, why wouldn’t you trust them?
You need to talk to your partner open and honestly about everything you have on your mind. Ensure that both of you promise to be completely honest from the offset and discuss all of the doubts that you have. Agree on certain rules and make sure you both follow through with them, complacency will lead to doubts from one side or another.
Agree that if you have any doubts arise as the relationship progresses that you will discuss them immediately. Both parties should agree on that, if you bottle things up your partner will probably detect that there is something wrong. Denial will hinder the growth of your relationship.
Communicate with each other regularly, at least once every day. Find out what your partner has done on that day. You should always be learning more about your partner each day that passes. If you ever think that it’s going the other way and you don’t feel you know your partner as well as you did the day before, increase communication.
Agree to meet up on a set number of dates every year and do whatever you have to do to stick to it. By setting these dates you will have something to aim for. If you miss the dates then your partner will wonder why, are they aren’t important enough? If you can’t stick to the dates, don’t make them in the first place.
Long distance relationships are difficult to cope with, but it is possible. If you set your goals from the start, always remain honest with each other and make a ton of effort to ensure your partner feels loved and cherished, you’re half way there. Always remember that the person you love is worth making sacrifices for.
No one usually chooses to be in a long distance relationship. You may have started out that way by meeting online or maybe employment has put you on opposite coasts.
There are pros and cons to a long distance relationship, but there is no doubt it takes absolute commitment and trust from both parties for the relationship to even have a chance. Another vital part of a learning how to cope in a long distance relationship is to always have open and honest communication.
Communication is incredibly important in any relationship but much more so in a LDR. Ask anyone in a long distance relationship and you will more than likely be told that the distance and separation will automatically breed mistrust.
The only way to get rid of this inherent mistrust is with open and honest communication. When open and honest communication is present, being so far apart isn’t all that bad. Although the obvious cons come to mind like a lack of physical intimacy, but no worries; this can also be remedied.
Long distance intimacy can help both parties feel more involved and loved…and no, I’m not talking about just phone sex. Long distance intimacy can be something as simple as sending your significant other a love letter or card.
Yeah, it would be easier to maybe send a text message or email, but that isn’t as sincere and can sometimes be seen as impersonal. Sending a letter is an endearing and timeless way to show one’s love from a long distance.
Long distance intimacy isn’t just limited to letter writing either. The possibilities are endless when it comes to creative ways to show you love a person even when you are so far away. It’s just important that you keep it fresh, or it may be taken for granted.
Sometimes people need to actually see each other visually to remind them of what their long distance lover looks like. This is where video chat has become a lifesaver. There is nothing worse than realizing you forgot what such an important person in your life looks like. The best part is, it’s free.
Long distance relationships really don’t have to lack intimacy. It just appears in different ways. Obviously physical intimacy is impossible to replace, but there are things that can help out in its absence. The problem there is the mindset that is brought to the table.
Many people consider it a labor of love to be in a long distance relationship, and that is somewhat true..it isn’t easy, but it doesn’t have to be that way. Think of the positives; the fact you have actually found someone who is willing to be apart for such a long time, but still holds you close.
You are important to them and they are important to you. That is something special, and something that regular relationships don’t have. So in times of doubt and loneliness just remember the old adage; absence makes the heart grow fonder.