So life has thrown you a bit of a curveball, and your significant other and yourself will have to be far apart for a long period of time. There are certain ways to cope with a long distance relationship. There are many schools of thought on how to cope, but there are some tried and true methods that should work for just about any situation.
The number one thing to do is to fill your time. The more time you are alone and not doing anything, the more time you have to think about the distance between you and your loved one. This can prove to be toxic.
Yes, you heard me right; too much thinking can in fact be toxic to a LDR relationship. Too much thinking brews up jealousy and mistrust, two emotions that should be avoided at any cost.
Just keep yourself busy while you are away from your partner, and you will reduce the risk of introducing these and other poisonous emotions.
If mistrust or jealousy begins to brew in your head, it must be stopped immediately before it destroys the relationship. To cope with a long distance relationship you must deal with the emotions that come along with it.
The only way to stop jealousy and mistrust from growing into something that can ruin the relationship is to address it through open and honest communication with your significant other. LDR communication obviously can’t be done face to face, but using video chat is usually close enough.
Video chatting personalizes things a bit more than phone calls because you can see and read body language and facial expressions, and everyone knows that language is eighty percent non verbal. Take the time to express yourself and how you are feeling to your partner, and don’t let it build up inside.
Allowing for honest communication between partners is one of the best ways to cut off the poisonous emotions as well as comforting your long distance loved one. Just having a conversation daily with your lover can help ease the stress of the distance.
This will help both parties cope with the long distance relationship. Bring comfort to your loved one through honest communication daily and they will never forget you or find someone else.
Comfort can also be found in the fact that the separation is temporary, and that it won’t last forever. In times of doubt and loneliness try and look towards the light at the end of the tunnel.
Long distance relationships aren’t the best situation to find yourself in, but when you do, the only way to cope with a LDR is to squash the bad emotions and stay true.
If both parties can stay open and honest, half the battle is already over. Then it falls to the individuals to keep themselves occupied during the long time apart. Stay true to yourself and to your significant other and there is no amount of distance or time that will keep you apart.
A long distance relationship can be stressful. How do you maintain the feelings and romance? How can the relationship grow? How can you develop and take the relationship to the next level? Answering all of these questions in your mind is very difficult.
The first thing to remember is love itself is never easy. Long distance relationships are even more difficult. If you struggle with trusting your partner then inevitably you will struggle to cope with them being away.
However, if you lack trust in your partner, why are you with them in the first place? Trust is an issue you need to establish, ask yourself, if your partner wants to maintain a long distance relationship with you, why wouldn’t you trust them?
You need to talk to your partner open and honestly about everything you have on your mind. Ensure that both of you promise to be completely honest from the offset and discuss all of the doubts that you have. Agree on certain rules and make sure you both follow through with them, complacency will lead to doubts from one side or another.
Agree that if you have any doubts arise as the relationship progresses that you will discuss them immediately. Both parties should agree on that, if you bottle things up your partner will probably detect that there is something wrong. Denial will hinder the growth of your relationship.
Communicate with each other regularly, at least once every day. Find out what your partner has done on that day. You should always be learning more about your partner each day that passes. If you ever think that it’s going the other way and you don’t feel you know your partner as well as you did the day before, increase communication.
Agree to meet up on a set number of dates every year and do whatever you have to do to stick to it. By setting these dates you will have something to aim for. If you miss the dates then your partner will wonder why, are they aren’t important enough? If you can’t stick to the dates, don’t make them in the first place.
Long distance relationships are difficult to cope with, but it is possible. If you set your goals from the start, always remain honest with each other and make a ton of effort to ensure your partner feels loved and cherished, you’re half way there. Always remember that the person you love is worth making sacrifices for.